To be a successful leader, you need sound rapport. But how do you get it when some folks just drive you bonkers?
It’s not easy when someone can make your toes curl just by the way they smile.
But trust me, you can develop good rapport with anyone using these three secret strategies.
We’re going to go one better than simply getting along with people, we’re going to share how to create magnetic rapport. Rapport that wraps people in a bubble of loveliness and lures the angels to strum their harps and cherubs to chirp.
Let’s do it!
1. It’s all about YOU!
You got to love yourself so hard you can hardly keep from smooching yourself all over. It’s not about being narcissistic or self-indulgent, it’s about having that MOJO that rocks the house. The kind of magic that says, “heck ya I am uber awesome”.
When you have that kind of internal resonance and high beam of feel-good, people are naturally drawn to you. Don’t you like to hang out with people who have that inner glow of “all is right with the world and my place in it”. (for tips on how to get this kind of rock-star confidence go to Get Wealthy Healthy Hot).
2. It’s all about THEM!
You’ve got to love the patooties out of the other person. I don’t mean love as in starry eyed romantic mushiness, I mean deep and profound compassion and acceptance.
If you find yourself judging someone else or their choices or their behaviour or the colour of their socks, then you’re off the mark. Magnetic you are not. Prickly and disdainful you might be.
This is a toughie, folks, it means giving up your addiction to judgments – of making people right or making them wrong. (or making yourself right or wrong for that matter).
One handy trick is that next time you feel yourself making a snigger, or criticising, or putting someone down, or disliking them, or getting irritated, try stepping back for a moment and noticing your tendency to fill the space with negativity. Instead of, “they are really getting up my nose” try this instead: “That’s interesting…”
It’s a good circuit breaker to get you back in the vicinity of complete acceptance and compassion.
3. Embrace with light.
As you listen to someone, really listen. Absorb all of who they are as they tell their story, feel their energetic vibe, the unique marvel of a creation that is the full sum of who they are.
You can imagine a white golden light settling around you, holding the two of you in sacred communion of having a shared experience.
Kind of makes the water cooler conversations more interesting, doesn’t it?
What about you? What do you do to build great rapport? What have you noticed about folks you love hanging around with? What is it about them that makes them magnetic?